Raising Kids to Do Hard Things is about helping you light a fire in your kids so that their lives will shine brightly for the glory of God and the good of others.
Here's what that can look like:
A son who steps outside his comfort zone willingly, for the sake of personal growth or to help someone in need — not because he is being pushed and prodded.
A daughter who will go above and beyond what is expected or required of her — even beyond what you, her parents, are asking for.
A teenager who takes the time and makes the effort to be faithful in the small things, from family chores to personal devotions to what he does when no one is watching.
A college student who stands up for what she believes in, even when she encounters opposition and ridicule — because she truly believes it for herself.
A twentysomething who tackles big problems in his world, with youthful optimism and dogged determination.
You can't force motivation. It must be kindled.
Raising Kids to Do Hard Things re-imagines parenting, not as the filling of buckets, but as the lighting of fires.
Viewing our children as buckets, where we are responsible to pour in as much investment as possible and keep their schedules filled to the brim, is exhausting and often ineffective.
Viewing them as fires, that need to be tended and fed, but possess their own animation and hunger for new material, takes a huge burden off of our shoulders and gives us a more realistic gauge for how our children are actually doing.
Raising Kids to Do Hard Things is a 12-week online parenting course focused on raising self-motivated kids with the drive and internal fire necessary to succeed on their own initiative.
During this course my father, Gregg Harris, and I are going to walk you through the 7 Key Principles that have guided our family's approach to raising and motivating kids to do hard things.
It can be a huge challenge to make our kids do hard things. But when we raise kids to do hard things, we end up with young men and women who are self-motivated to do the right thing, even when we're not around to make them.
I'm the co-author of Do Hard Things: A Teenage Rebellion Against Low Expectations (which I wrote with my twin brother Alex when we were 18-years-old). Most importantly, I am a grateful son seeking to share the biblical wisdom and insight that changed my life growing up. This course is my answer to the question, "What did your parents do?"
Your Instructor, Gregg Harris
Since graduating Bible college back in the 1970's, my dad has spent nearly four decades pastoring and Bible teaching on topics relating to Christian family life. He has taught hundreds of workshops and seminars at respected churches like Moody and Bethlehem Baptist — with over a quarter-million alumni families world-wide.
We've had the privilege to work with hundreds of families. Here's the feedback they've given us.
11-Year-Old Sells His Nintendo DS
When we learned about Raising Kids to Do Hard Things and began to consider it, we were concerned about the cost and time. As we discussed the course, we began to believe that it had enormous potential to encourage us in our family life.
We realized that there is no greater responsibility as believers.
We looked at our finances and came to the conclusion that we spend more money on things of much less value and significance. One trip for a vacation or visit to friends or family would cost that much.
Once we decided to invest the money, we set aside time for the same reasons. It was easier to set aside time knowing we were investing money.
We looked forward to watching the teaching session each week. The information was so helpful that we cleared our schedule one evening a week to watch together.
We are an extremely busy family, but we did not want to miss anything. We gathered around our computer with a cup of tea (and some baskets of laundry to fold). Our oldest children would beg to stay up so they could listen with us. We had some great conversations with them discussing the material.
During the course, my 11-year-old son and I had a discussion about the material presented concerning technology. He came to me a couple of weeks later, and asked for my help with something. He decided that his Nintendo DS was not very useful to him as a tool. He said that he only used it as a toy. He asked if I would help him figure out how to sell it on eBay.
He went on to explain that he wanted to send some money to Compassion so his sponsored child would get a Christmas gift. He thought that he could get approximately the amount he needed by selling the game system. We figured out how to sell it together, and his plan worked (I didn't think he would get as much for it as he did)! This experience was a direct result of the course.
— JEFFREY AUERBACH
More Motivated Teenagers
Busyness and over-commitment crept into my parenting – and it began to drain my spirit and definitely effect my parenting. Raising Kids To Do Hard Things came just in time and helped me see more clearly that I was a scattered mom and wife.
Doing a few things well (going deeper in those few things) became a new shift in motherhood for me and I’m grateful for that realization.
Plus, through the Raising Kids course it became clear to me that often my good intentions of "encouraging" my teenage twins were at times "over-zealous".
Since then I’ve been learning the delicate art of "fanning into flames" my children’s delights, and as a result I’m seeing the rewards of my self-control and patience in the depth of interest my children are engaging in now.
I wish I had this course when my children were younger, so I encourage any parent of young children or teenagers to invest time in this course. An investment now will yield great benefits for you and your family.
— AMY DERNIER
"He's Finally Tender Towards His Sister"
I was familiar with some of the Harris' previous work and knew we would not be wasting our time with formulas or fluff. We were ready to fully engage. We would no longer journey alone.
The wisdom that flowed forth was like water to our thirsty parenting souls. Water which we drank up eagerly, shared later through discussion and poured out onto our children as soon as we could!
As we began to apply Gregg’s nuggets of wisdom into the daily grind of running our home, we found ourselves relaxing more, laughing more, simplifying more, forgiving more. Through this teaching I have been encouraged, energized and confirmed. I needed that. We needed that.
Not only that, but our middle son, in having personal time during a Q&A with Gregg, has come to know Christ in a deeper way than ever. Since that conversation, "with the man far away who cared to talk to a 9-year-old" he's finally tender towards his sister, he's up reading his Bible in the morning, he's opening his heart to us. That is priceless. That is a work of the Holy Spirit!
— ANGELA BLYCKER
"Set Goals For Our Family Together"
Even though I (Lydia) was the one who signed up, after sharing the key thoughts from the course with my husband, we were both motivated and took some time to evaluate our parenting experience.
We worked through the Raising Kids Action Plan and, for the first time in fifteen years of marriage, set goals for our family together. These are some great steps! This is such an inspiring course. Definitely recommend it!
— LYDIA SIN
Let us help you focus on what matters.
Register your family today for the Raising Kids online course and get the biblical guidance and practical encouragement you need to lead your kids in the right direction.
What happens if you're not satisfied with your purchase?
If you are unsatisfied with your purchase within the first 60 days, just ask for a refund.
Simply email me anytime within 60 days of purchase to get your money back: firstname.lastname@example.org
The only requirement is that you watch at least three sessions before requesting your refund. We only give refunds to people who give us a fair chance. :)
Frequently Asked Questions
Questions Families Asked Before Saying "Yes"
When does the course start and end?
The course is designed to work around your schedule. We'll be releasing new content almost every week between November 20th and February 12th. However, you are welcome to follow along at your own pace.
How long do I have access to the course?
How does lifetime access sound? After enrolling, you have unlimited access to this course for as long as you like, across any and all devices you own.
What is your refund policy for this course?
Your investment in this course is covered by a 60-Day, 100% Money Back Guarantee. If you are unsatisfied with your experience or if the course ends up not being a good fit for your family, email me for a prompt refund.
What if we can't afford this course?
If you believe this course will make a big difference for your family, but honestly don't have the financial resources to pay what it's worth... We still want you to join us. That's why we have a Pay-What-You-Can policy.
We get real feedback from real families — and they love the Raising Kids to Do Hard Things online course.
Four Months Later "We Are All Thriving"
Dear Brett and Gregg,
Over the past few weeks I have been wanting to send this email.
Thank you so much for the Raising Kids to Do Hard Things parenting course. We loved doing this together as a couple.
Last week my mom and my sister came to visit and told us how they enjoyed the children. The atmosphere in our home is improving as we apply "The 21 Rules of This House” to our daily life together. We highlight one rule per week and the kids enjoy coloring in the posters.
Your teaching on raising producers, not consumers was a real change of perspective — putting into words something that we felt to be true and valuable, but weren't able to pinpoint. Now we can explain to our children the why of certain “no’s,” and provide them with sound alternatives.
Most importantly, all of us are thriving — the children are pursuing the things they feel passionately about, God has provided some godly mentors for them, the atmosphere in the home is sweet and good.
As parents we are united and enjoy the children. We now feel more strongly about our parenting and have a wider, historical perspective. We don't mind being counter-cultural anymore — rather, we appreciate it.
We have been able to lay a foundation together, that will allow us to pursue God as a family. We look forward to what He has in store for us.
— ESTHER & CHRIS ARNUSCH
"I Learned So Much From This Class"
When I heard about the new class the Harris family was offering, I knew it would bless us. Even though our children now range in age from 15 to 28, and are all walking with the Lord, I learned so much from this class!
The profound truths that are shared, and the wonderfully interactive format of the class, blessed my heart richly. When the book comes out, it will not only be my new favorite baby shower gift, but we plan to also make copies available at our church.
The vision cast through these teachings for who our children are supposed to be in the Lord is empowering and exciting. Hope will be renewed, even as the culture around us tries to deaden our understanding of who God created our children to be.
I strongly and urgently encourage all parents to take the “Raising Kids to Do Hard Things” online course. The world desperately needs our families to be salt and light, and this course is a wonderful tool to help parents fulfill that responsibility.
— ANNE CONDER
"More Than We Were Looking For"
This course came recommended by a trusted friend and we quickly signed up. It was more than what we were looking for.
We now have theassurance, skills, and wisdom in dealing with most of the situations that come our way without feelings of inadequacy and regret.
We are now able to make tough decisions about our family’s future, use of technology, education, and how we feel God is leading us to train up our children.
I would highly recommend this course to anyone with or without kids.
— CECIL CUNNINGHAM
"Helped Us Focus In The Right Direction"
We have read quite a bit of biblical parenting books, but we never had accountability and encouragement along the way.
This course was personal.
Through the Q&& sessions and Facebook group, it definitely filled the void we faced in the past as loners.
To people like us who are always stretched and taking care of the ‘urgent,’ this course helped us focus in the right direction as parents.