The ultimate responsibility is absolutely my own. No matter how a woman is dressed, it is my responsibility to treat both her and myself with respect and to honor Christ with all my actions. If I ever feel that I might not be able to control myself or my thoughts, it's my responsibility to leave the situation. Guys who blame women for their own bad behavior are a major problem. Furthermore, it's my responsibility to dress and act modestly as well; women have their own God-given sexuality as well, and if I ask them to help me control my libido, I am honor-bound to do the same to help my sisters in Christ.

I think it is my responsibility to keep myself pure for marriage not just physically, but mentally and emotionally. Just the same as other areas in life, my purpose in life is to glorify God, and this is one of the ways I can do just that, by treating girls the way Christ would.

A girl has been given something for which she is responsible. That gift is a beautiful body and mystique which has power over a man, and so in being responsible with that gift, a girl must give thought to men. This is just like how men have been given bodies with a different power - physical strength. A man is responsible for that strength and must not abuse it or be careless with it - be that in the context of other men and children, or with women. In relation to one another, we are responsible for the gifts and roles God has given us, the power and ability we have, and the godly attitude is to be diligent in ensuring we are responsible and not negligent. That's how we are to treat others. As for how we treat our own thoughts and men's part in this whole modesty thing - as Jesus said, he who harbors anger in his heart is guilty of murder and he who looks lustfully after a woman is guilty of adultery. No matter what a woman may be wearing, as a follower of Christ God has called me to deal responsibly as a servant of the King. In the extreme, even if a girl were to walk naked on the street (which would naturally be very appealing to look at) I have no right to gaze at her or lust. I never lose the responsibility to consider all things in the light of Christ and to honour Him and the individual not only with my actions but also with my thoughts. Lusting is something I should never do and it is my responsibility to control my mind and eyes. I am to serve and be a blessing to those around me and especially the precious women He has given us men. We are to lead, to protect, to encourage and provide. Not only do we fail to honour women when we think of them this way, but such thoughts eventually lead to weakened actions and from there, to wrong actions. The guarding of our thoughts is something every individual should take seriously. As said, a woman shouldn't make this harder for a guy - when she dresses immodestly it's almost saying, "I expect you to behave as though I were dressed perfectly modestly, but I'm not going to dress that way," - or add to an atmosphere or environment which suggests to a guy that it's okay for him to think a certain way.

A man's responsibility is to: 1. Avert his eyes from that which might lead him to lust. 2. Avoid those places (whether physical or virtual) where seductive images abound. 3. Praise modesty wherever he finds it. 4. Demonstrate modesty in speech, in action, and in clothing. 5. Not to look down on those who are immodest, but to treat them with dignity. 6. Not to blame his stumbling on the immodesty of another. To do that would be to take the same line of reasoning as the rapist who says, "The way she was dressed, she was asking for it."

Guys have every bit as much (and probably more) responsibility in guarding their eyes and minds from immodesty. It is a bad thing if a girl is immodestly dressed, but a guy can choose what he focuses his eyes on, or whether he looks twice as she walks by. Also, guys need to be sending the message to the ladies that they don't need to be dressing immodestly in order to be attractive. I believe that many girls dress that way because they have been sent the message that if they don't the guys won't be interested. This message needs to be changed. So though girls have been the ones to get blamed for immodesty, I believe that guys are mostly at fault and need to be stepping up as men to do all they can to change what goes on in society.

Ultimately it is a guy's responsibility whether or not he is going to keep himself pure. No one can be forced to sin. However, a lot of girls don't realize how very diffucult it is for even the most godly guy to resist temptation in this area. It is so easy to let your eyes go to the wrong places, especially with the way our culture is today. It is the guy's decision whether he is going to sin or not, but a girl can make it a lot easier, or a girl can make it incredibly difficult.

Ultimately, responsibility for stumbling lies with each of us personally. I cannot blame a sister's dress for a lustful thought than I can blame a gun for a murder. God has granted us the power, in Him, to avoid falling - it is our responsibility to not reject that power. The way that a girl dresses assists us greatly in this - but ultimately, on the day of Judgment, each man will be called to answer for himself. This is a sobering thought, and helps me maintain focus in this fight.

We need to keep our thoughts pure and stop blaming girls for our impure thoughts. And guys can be modest too. Nobody EVER touches on that. We can be just as distracting to a girl as they are to us. Keep your shirt on. Pull your pants up. Seriously.

Sin is sin, and "she wasn't dressed modestly" will never be an excuse for lust. Our role must be to grow in our love of Jesus and one another so that lust becomes less and less attractive when temptation is in front of us. We must rely on God changing us for this to happen, rather than trying to conquer lust just by our own strength.

It's easier to resist temptation when a particular girl makes modesty a priority - but trust me, us guys can still stumble plenty because of our own sinful nature. Since a dedicated and God-centered guy can resist temptation in an immodest environment, but a completely modest environment still can't completely circumvent temptation, I believe the guys have the greater part of the responsibility in the battle against youthful lusts. This is not to say that girls shouldn't care about how they dress or act. I think a girl's temptation can be to "display" her physical attractiveness, but a truly selfless girl will put other guys ahead of her own desires. A big 'thank you' to all girls who grasp this concept and try to help us guys out!

To not go around "praising" the girls who are trying to look "hot," and doing our best not to expose ourselves to situations where we have to behold immodest girls. That means, for some of us, not going to youth group, and places that can be avoided. Also, we as young men need to give encouragement to the girls who are fighting for the right cause, and to speak our minds about what we stand for. It will make a difference.

Think biblically about women as God's creation, some as your sisters in Christ. All are to be treated respectfully and honored. We must treat them like ladies whether they act like it or not. We must find our joy and greatest delight in knowing Christ and honoring Him.

The first inclination of any sinful person is to make excuses and shift the blame to something else. If we are angry, we blame the heat of the moment. If we lie, we say we had no choice. If we lust, we blame the woman for being provocative. The commandment is clear: Anyone who looks on a woman lustfully is committing adultery in his heart. Jesus doesn't give free passes for her mode of dress, anymore than he gives free passes for the man who sacrifices at the temple while harboring anger against his brother. Moreover, Job doesn't say "I made a covenant with my eyes to never look at a woman if she doesn't dress a certain way." He says "I made a covenant not to gaze lustfully." Beautiful women are everywhere. If we have any exposure to the world, all manner and mode of dress will inevitably assault us as men. If we go out armed simply with the expectation that "girls should dress modestly," lust will have a field day with us. Girls dressing modestly is helpful, but we need to be armed with something that addresses the lust at it's root - in our sinful, deceitful hearts. What is my motive for wanting to stare at a woman? Easy - I want the sensual gratification, and I'm willing to sin to get it. It can be just for the moment, or it can be something to replay (and modify) in my mind later. How do I combat this sinful desire? By disciplining my body and my thoughts, by reminding myself that the desire is wrong and not worth sinning to get.

Don't act like we want girls to be flirtatious. If guys become more clean then the girls would hopefully see the light. And I think one of the main perpetrators of immodesty is what some guys admire. What kind of a message does it send to girls of any age when you admire with lust the fashion queens, movie stars, and pop stars? Girls want to be liked and they go to what I think is sometimes stupid lengths to achieve that.

If we seek to meditate on the sexual elements of her appearance, we're sinning and they're fine. If we have to make a conscious effort to avoid it more than usual, it's likely immodest.

Guys never have excuses for sin. If a girl dresses immodestly, we are still responsible for purity, even if it means avoiding certain people or situations. We have to guard our minds and eyes at all times, including when girls dress and behave appropriately. We simply must be self-controlled (Titus 2:6). Even very modest girls occasionally show skin on accident, and it's cowardly for a guy to place blame on them for his own childishness.

First, we must view women properly. They are loved by God. Every woman is someone's daughter, sister, or mother. How do you want your mother, daughter, sister treated? Ultimately we are responsible for our own spiritual condition and our relationship with God. No matter how provocative a woman is, we are called to rise above that. Look at the example of Joseph. A woman tried every trick in the book to seduce him, yet when he had the "perfect opportunity," he ran. We are responsible for our own minds.

I'm responsible for guarding my eyes, my mind, my intentions. My responsibility is to not treat women as objects for my satisfaction, even if they dress and act like it. It devalues them, and makes me a user of people. As a brother of two young sisters, it's furthermore my responsibility to instill in them an understanding of what their role is, and how guys act and respond to good and bad choices in the area of modesty. I need to model Christ to them, and help them to consider the effects of their actions.

The majority of the responsibility falls on us men. When we lust we are not making the women after whom we are lusting sin, we are the ones sinning. A girl can be very immodestly dressed and I can choose to glorify God by not lusting after her body. It is my responsibility to keep my mind and heart pure. I am, however, very grateful to God for young ladies who want to dress in a way the pleases Him. Thank you!

Let's be honest. We're men, and we're responsible for ourselves. We're responsible for our thoughts, for our lusts, for our character. We won't be able to blame the girls when we're called to give account for it in the judgment day. We won't be able to say like Adam, "The woman you made..." In fact, the Bible warns us that if our eyes are causing us to offend, it would be better to pluck it out than to allow it to lead us astray. Now you girls don't want that to happen... Please? We are responsible for bringing these senses into subordination to the will of God. We're trying. And we get tested every day. That's our job wherever we are, whether in the world or in church. But quite honestly, we'd rather do our battles with the world than with our sisters in Christ.