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Published on January 10th, 2017 | by Discussion Questions

Why do you believe in God?





ANONYMOUS WRITES: I grew up in a Christian home. Recently my parents divorced, and I have been going through a rough time. I find that I really don’t believe in God much anymore. I know a lot about God and I know at least some of it is true, but that’s all.

How do y’all know God is who He says he is? How can you fall in love with a concept that requires blind faith? Bible verses, quotes, logic, anything will help. I only know Christianity but I can’t really believe it.


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  • Lydia Graham

    That is an important question. It must be a pretty rough time that you are going through. Let me ask you a question, if you don’t believe in God, then what do you believe? If you don’t believe in God, then you must believe that our wonderful, beautiful world came about by chance, or that someone, or something else made it. If you don’t believe in God, then you don’t believe that He answers prayer, it just happens by chance. But I as a christian know that that did not happen. God is a loving, and just God. He has a plan for each and every person, he knows and cares for every little sparrow. He knows what you are going through. God has proven himself over, and over to us, but we are people. We have a human nature. We tend to question, even though He has proven Himself to us so much. We are like the Israelites when they were wondering for forty years. Days after God would provide for them, they would question His goodness, and go back to complaining about being provided for. They forgot who saved them from the pharaoh, they forgot who sent them manna and water in the wilderness. Even though God proved Himself to them, they questioned. Even though God provides for us, we as humans question Him. He loves us, to the point of sending His only Son to die for us. And I am so thankful that He does not command success, instead all He asks is for faithfulness. He does not measure us by our success, but asks for faithfulness.
    Forgive me for the length of this, I only wanted to tell you that I believe in Him because He has proven Himself over and over again. But we as humans tend to question. Hope that helps. I will be praying for you

  • Jess Ladyboat

    Hey, first of all, I’m sorry that you’ve been going through a rough time lately. You’ll be in my prayers and I hope that, even if it breaks you at first, you’ll come out of this stronger. And I want to apologize in advance in case I end up typing too much or if nothing I say is helpful.

    My first prayer was a last resort – I was struggling with my mental and physical health, and my friends were slowly abandoning me. I tried opening myself up to God because I figured that “it couldn’t make anything worse” but I was fully expecting nothing to happen. To my surprise, praying gave me a sense of peace that I didn’t realize was possible in the midst of dark circumstances.

    From that moment, I knew I wanted to learn more about Christianity, and when I found Jesus, I also found a new perspective on suffering.

    You’ve likely already heard the gospel before – God came to earth as a man in the person of Jesus Christ. He was fully God and fully human, He lived the perfect life we could not live and died on the cross as the perfect sacrifice for our sins. After three days He was resurrected, defeating death and providing the way for us to have perfect fellowship with our Creator as long as we accept His sacrifice on our behalf. It’s a message we can too easily accept as a nice story without thinking about what it truly means.

    It means that you are never alone. Jesus knows what it’s like to be human. He knows what it’s like to be tired, to have people making demands on Him on all the time, to be betrayed by His friends, to be attacked. He knows sadness, anger, loss, and suffering. That means that you’re never more than a prayer away from being able to talk to someone who knows how you’re feeling right now.

    It means that you are seen and heard. God came to earth. He didn’t sit up in Heaven waiting for us to get things right, or waiting for us to mess up. He didn’t run away from us and distance Himself from us. He didn’t leave the weight of salvation on our shoulders. He came down to help us and save us and be with us and set us free, proving that He sees, loves, and cares.

    It means that your suffering is not meaningless. A message I love that has helped me so much is one I learned from Jefferson Bethke in his book “Jesus > Religion.” It is this: we may not know what the reason for our suffering is, but we know what the reason isn’t: it’s not because we are not loved. We may not know why God allows suffering, but we know that He must have a good reason or else He wouldn’t have chosen to take our pain upon Himself when He died on the cross.

    Dark circumstances still press in on me sometimes but I believe that I can hold Christianity up to the void because it doesn’t shy away from the grittiest, hardest parts of life. Christianity doesn’t say, “Here, figure this mess out for yourself and then you’ll be loved.” Christianity says “It’s okay if you can’t figure this out yourself, you’re already loved.”

    Even if you’ve tried prayer before and you felt nothing, that doesn’t mean that God isn’t there. Feelings (or lack thereof) are not always true. But there is evidence for the resurrection of Christ. (One of my favourite pieces of evidence is the fact that the first recorded witnesses to the resurrection were women, and this was in a time and culture where women were not considered worthy or reliable witnesses, so if the authors of the gospel were just making things up, it wouldn’t be logical for them for use women as witnesses in their story.)

    Once again, I apologize for the extreme length here! It’s normal to experience times of doubt and navigating through them is a very personal experience. But I do hope that in time you come to know how much Jesus truly loves you despite your sufferings. <3

  • My parents also got divorced, I had just turned ten at the time. It’s rough, I’m so sorry that it is happening to you as well.
    My dad had professed to be a christian but the day that he left our house, he left his six children (I was the oldest), his beautiful young wife, his wedding ring and his Bible.
    We really struggled financially those first few years but my mom taught us to thank God for what we had. God always provided for us. People would randomly stop by with truck loads of bakery goods, meat or various other provisions (some hearty and healthy… others not so much. 😉 ) One elderly gentleman would bring us Moon Pies and old bicycles that he would fix up for us.
    I had believed in God my whole life it seemed, I didn’t really question it.

    When I got my first “real” job, one of my co workers was an argumentative and cocky atheist, he asked me questions I didn’t know how to answer. It really bothered me. I started to wonder, WHY do I believe? Is my eternal destiny simply bound up in circumstantial evidence because I have seen that He will always provide for my family? Or in the “experience” because I have felt touched by a sermon or a song before? To use your words, was it simply, blind faith?

    I started to ask questions of my mom, of God and of different books.
    There is much historical evidence for Jesus Christ, His life, His death and resurrection. Have you read either of the books, “The Case for Christ” -Lee Strobel or “Man. Myth. Messiah” – Rice Broocks? The Case for Christ is written by Lee Strobel who started his “case” as a devoted atheist.

    Do you read the Bible at all? Before reading any other book I would suggest this. Find a quiet place where you won’t be interrupted, be that your bedroom or a coffee shop or a forest near your home. Don’t bring your phone with you and tell anyone else that is around that you would like to have the day to yourself, (Or hour, or afternoon, whatever time period you want.)

    Take your Bible, a pen and a notebook. Tell God that you don’t even know if you believe in Him. Ask Him to make Himself known to you through His word. Ask Him to open your heart to be able to read with out bias. If you want to know if someone is alive, or was alive you are going to ask for evidence.
    Request your evidence. And start reading, I would say the New Testament first and then the Old, but that is my own preference. You can do it either way.

    He doesn’t want to hide Himself from those that are searching. He actually gives the desire to know Him. The fact that you want evidence for God and don’t just want to turn from Him is suggestive of the fact that He already is calling you to Himself. Those who don’t follow God don’t desire to know Him. God gives the desire to know Him, the FAITH to believe in Him. “Lord, I believe, help my unbelief.” (Mark 9:24)

    People have doubted, denied and questioned our Lord since the very beginning and yet He uses them and grows them more into His likeness.
    Think of Thomas who said that he WOULD NOT believe that Jesus had risen again until he had seen it for himself. Jesus didn’t get all huffy with His doubting disciple, He revealed Himself to Thomas. He gave him the evidence.

    Blind faith is indeed foolishness and will falter at the first signs of danger.
    God is not blind faith.
    For since the creation of the world God’s invisible qualities–his eternal power and divine nature–have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made, so that people are without excuse. (Romans 1:20)

    How to fall in love with that which you cannot see?

    As you read God’s word and He reveals Himself to you He will also help you to love Him. Love is a choice and an action.
    Not a feeling.
    Sure, a feeling will sometime be there but not always.
    Just like with people. You don’t always feel really loving toward your parents, (especially when things like divorce happen and all the ugliness and sadness and hurt that comes with that.) but deep down you still love them. Still address them with the respect of “mom” and “dad”. And even when parents sin against us, that doesn’t mean they don’t love us.
    Only God will give the kind of love that never gives up and thinks about others more important than ourselves.

    I hope this helps, if you have any other questions regarding any of what you are going through, please feel free to contact me on here or more directly on my blog and I can send you an email address.
    ohsusannahbaffa.blogspot.com

    • Rachel M.

      That was an amazing answer! I was about to comment with much of the same things! Thank you for being so open about your experiences as a child. You seem like the kind of person who would be amazing in the ministry. God bless you and have a wonderful day!

      -Rachel

      • Thank you Rachel. God has truly blessed me and I am happy I share the things He has taught. :-)
        God bless you too!
        In Christ, Susannah

    • So I had planned on keeping my anonymity, but wow! This was what I needed to hear. I have felt God calling me and I will post a comment about it later on. Thanks so much!

      • Praise God!!
        Praying for you!!

        • Thanks so much! Il be praying for you as well

  • Carolina

    Hey, first i should apologize, because i don’t speak in english perfectly haha.
    And i understand you, because I’m going through the same and i know that is hard…I’ll be praying for you, but you must too should praying for God give you help for understand, believe, and be stronger. It’s also cost to me understand some things, but i pray everyday and say to God “Help me to be stronger, to be patient, to not be a bad person with those who my around” And more… God answer me always.I invite you to prove it. If you know all depends on you’re pray with faith, and if look for God the rest He will complement it. I believe in God for faith and because He gave and give all for me and everyone.
    Anything you can tell God..And if you need a friend, too (you can count on me too:))

  • Amanda

    Check out The Case for Christ and/or The Case for Faith by Lee Strobel. He was an atheist skeptic and set out to disprove Christianity, but ended up finding that the evidence points conclusively to Christ, and he became a Christian. I think you’ll find that following Jesus doesn’t require blind faith but is actually quite a reasonable decision based on the available evidence. :)

    Sometimes people get confused about Christianity because they see it as a list of rules. But the Word of God teaches heart transformation, not just behavior modification. We have to allow Jesus to come in and change our hearts to be more like Him. The only way we can truly have life is if we let Christ resurrect our dead, sinful hearts.

    Another book recommendation is Not a Fan by Kyle Idleman. It’s an easy read about being a fan of Jesus versus a true follower.

    Hang in there, friend. It’s okay to have questions. God loves you dearly, and He wants to have a real, personal, intimate relationship with you. We may not get all our questions answered in this life, but we can find some answers, and things will make much more sense in the light of eternity.

  • Kyle Moore

    I personally came to my belief in God from a stressing on my parents side. They did not force me but they raised me as a Christian so I fell right in. After that I experienced a great weekend at what is called Happening. The weekend coordinator is now a good friend of mine and we talk quite a bit. I go work them whenever I can. Anyways, I believe in God because of what he has done for me. God was able to pull me out of some dark places twice now and I wouldn’t be able to do what I’m doing today in school and for my personal life. I pray one day I’ll be able to publish a book too. God has never really shown me anything special, my belief came from discipline more or less. When I was in a dark spot someone or something would remind what I’m doing wrong and then I would kick myself in the pants and start living a better life by choice. Seemingly naturally things would get better. I took that as enough proof for me. That was my experience with God’s goodness.

  • Anonymous

    Hello! Firstly, I want to say thank you for asking this. It’s a very common question that many of us begin to ask at some point in our lives. I also want to say that I’m so proud of you. I remember what it was like to doubt God’s existence and it was probably the scariest time of my life because like you, I grew up in a Christian home and I had never really questioned my core beliefs up until that point. I felt like my whole world had come crashing down and I didn’t feel like I could trust anyone and tell them what I was going through. Finally, I told my mom and I was shocked by her response. I had expected her to pull out all these books about faith and God’s existence but she didn’t. She was very calm and reassuring and encouraged me that I could get through this. I spent several months begging God to show me that He was real, even working at a summer camp telling young kids all about a God I wasn’t sure existed. To get to the point, God used those months to slowly show me that He was real and that He cared about my life as well.

    Everyone has their different reasons for believing in God, although some may be very similar and some are very different. For me, one of the biggest reasons is because of the people around me. Many of the most wisest people that I know believe in God and because they are intelligent, there must be something there. Secondly, I am very aware of the brokenness and hurt present in this world, but that means that I have some idea of perfection or of an ideal world. This idea of goodness and perfection must be created by a good and just God. This last reason is a very personal reason. My first week at the summer camp I was working at, there was one girl who did not seemed very interested in the bible discussions and stuff. But one day, she came up to me out of the blue and said to me, “I see God in you.” Well, I was obviously shocked by this and wasn’t sure how to respond. It did not hit me until later, but if that girl could see something I couldn’t see, God working in my life, then He couldn’t be just a man-made idea, He had to be real. Children see the world from a different perspective.

    I want to encourage you to keep asking and continue looking. I know it’s scary and sometimes you may feel like curling up in a ball, but it’s worth it in the end. When you finally come to realize that God does exist, with your own reasons to believe, it’s truly a beautiful moment and those months of waiting for an answer finally seem worth it. God does care about you and know that He will always be there for you, even when it seems we cannot see Him.

  • Olivia W.

    In the midst of a lot of suffering, I started to read my Bible and pray as a last resort. It transformed me; He transformed me. I began to see God as not just a possible being up in the sky, but the Lord of all, my Savior, who adopted me as his child, planned out every minute of my life for my ultimate good and his glory, and continues to sustain me.

    I’d advise you to please, read the Bible and pray. It might seem like just a book at first. But it isn’t. The word of God is living and active, sharper than a two edged sword. It has the power to convict us and to to reach into our souls with the truth. Faith comes through hearing, and hearing through God’s word. Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you. Seek him, and he will reveal himself to you. (Hebrews 4:12, Romans 10:17, James 4:8)

    “I believe in the sun even when it is not shining. I believe in love even when I cannot feel it. I believe in God even when he is silent.” Author unknown, written in a cellar during the Holocaust.

  • DanE

    Why believe in God? Why not? God is amazing, powerful, and the greater of the heavens and earth. Yes times get rough and tough, but lights shine brighter in the darkness. And everything that happens (I believe anyway) is in God’s plan. For example, Last Christmas, (as in 2015) I made a really big mistake, and it all just kept on adding up and adding up and adding up, but if I hadn’t of made that mistake, I never would’ve felt the same drive that I am feeling right now to make music and to help others. Now to be clear, I am not saying I am grateful that I made that mistake, I AM NOT, but it proves my point that when bad things happen, good things come out of that.

    I am getting a little off track, so back to the question. Why do I believe in God? Well because he has been so good to me and to human kind in general. Without God we wouldn’t even BE here. Another reason why I believe in God: Forgiveness. When I made that mistake, I thought nobody would ever forgive me again. I was wrong, and I know that because after that I started reading the Bible and I read that Jesus died for our sins. Now I already knew that because it is said countless times in church, but it never felt real to me. Final reason of why I believe in God (I could go on and on but I don’t think anyone would appreciate that), God loves me. God loves everyone. Everything. Why wouldn’t he? He created it all.

    Well I am done, hope this helped!

    • DanE

      Also, this might sound bad, but I don’t know how else to say it, it is nice to have SOMETHING to believe in other than mankind. There, I am done.

    • DanE

      I should also add that when I went on a missions trip to Haiti, you could see Jesus everywhere! Haiti is pretty much just one big church. So even through Hurricane Matthew and the 2010 earthquake, they still believe in God. That right there is proof to me that God exists.

  • Jolie Simmonds

    Hi Anonymous, lately I’ve also been questioning my faith, like literally yesterday I asked my self some of the same questions you are asking. Personally, I’ve found that my greatest proof for God is what he’s done in my life. Looking back I see a plan and a pattern of events woven together in a way that could not be coincidence. I see answered prayers and little miracles. To me those things stack up against any doubts. I can doubt what I’ve heard from other and I can doubt what I’ve read but I can’t doubt what I’ve witnessed first hand.

    One day I became hysterical, I couldn’t stop crying and screaming, I tried breathing deep, counting to ten, nothing worked. My parents started getting upset with me but no matter what I did I couldn’t stop. Finally I remembered that I could call on God for help, so I just started repeating “In Jesus’ name Satan Go Away, In Jesus’ name Satan Go Away,” suddenly my mood changed, in mere seconds, after an hour of hysterics I was laughing, in fact I couldn’t stop smiling! That was one of the more bizzare instances but even the tinsiest answered prayers make me believe without a doubt that there has to be a God.

    • Jolie Simmonds

      PS. If you’d like, I know of a great little book called How to Know God Exist, it’s super informative, scientific and it’s pretty short too.

    • DanE

      I should try that sometime! I might not get hysterical but still I think it would work.

  • Okie Gal

    First, thank you for you honesty. It’s really good to admit your struggles, and I think if you can find a good church and share this with them they can help you more than me.

    I’m going to take a kind of metaphysical approach. It’ll be really long, and I apologize.

    So first, the existence of a god or supreme being of some sort. Assuming nothing comes from nothing (I can prove this if you want, but it’s long) we can say that for anything to exist something must be inherently existent. Plato called it an Uncaused Cause — something that guides everything else, but itself never changes.

    Now, some people say matter is inherently existent and I’ll get to that in a second. But first, let’s look at some of the claims in scripture: in Exodus 3:14 God gives his personal name to Moses saying “I AM WHO I AM”. The Hebrew word that we translate that from is Yahweh (YHWH) and means “I am the one who exists”. God is claiming to be ultimate, and it’s a name used all through the Bible. He’s saying that he is the Uncaused Cause. That would make sense because a personal god would be able to create information like we see in DNA.

    Okay, other people say matter is the Uncaused Cause, so let’s deal with that. This is hard, but astro-science over the last few decades has shown a pattern of the universe expanding — which begs the question, what is it expanding into? This means there must be something outside of our sphere of existence for matter to go into, and that matter in fact does change — which would mean that it can’t be Uncaused.

    On the flip side of that, and assuming it’s always been expanding, you could go back in time to the point were it would’ve been so small that there was zero space. And where there is no space, matter won’t fit. So there’s another hole in that theory.

    Of the two, god is clearly the more logical theory. (Yes I’m biased because I’m a Christian, but you can always study this for yourself.)

    So, now to show that not only is there a god, but He is the God of the Bible.

    Real quick though, the Bible itself says that we are futile in our thinking because of sin (Romans 1:25ish). That means that even the most flawless logic can’t get us to God. Believing him will always go against a part of you, because the basis of sinful nature (which we all have) is rejecting God (Romans 1 again).

    Um, this is getting super long though and I need to get off the site real quick, so I’ll be back.

    • DanE

      Ok, whats part two?

      • Angela Pycroft

        Yeah, I want to read that!

      • Okie Gal

        I’m so sorry but I’ll have to wait til tomorrow. What I wanted to say takes a lot of thought to put into words, and if I tried it now I’d be too tired. I’ll have it by tomorrow night.

    • Okie Gal

      (Part 2)

      Okay, I said I would explain how not only is there a god, but He’s the God of the Bible so I guess it would be good to start with a few biblical claims about who he is. The most basic one is that he is personal, not just a vague force. Like I said, this makes sense because it would take an intellect to create the laws of nuture and the information in DNA (ect.).

      Others include that he created everything but Himself (Genesis 1), that he is ultimate, and that all things happen under his control (Act 17:28). — all consistent with the Uncaused Cause thing we already talked about.

      This gives credit to the Bible because, if my logic is right so far, at least parts of it are true. From here, I do sort of jump the gap to say that if some parts are true than these two verses are true : 2 Timothy 3:16 “All scripture is breathed out by God…” And Number 23:18, “God is not man that he should lie, or human that he should change his mind”.

      So if God, who never lies, wrote this book then it must be true. And if he wrote all of it, all of it is true.

      If that’s right, then the way to know God is through his word, and the way to believe him is to know him. Do I would encourage you to study the Word.

      I hope this has been helpful Delaney, and that I didn’t waste your time. Ultimately the way to believe God is to see that your sin deserves death, and trust Jesus’ work on the cross as the only way you can be saved. I just prayed for you, and will again if I think of it.

      I know my logic isn’t super tight through this last part, so I would love y’all’s input if you want. (And yes, “y’all’s” is a word)

      • DanE

        It was good, your logic seemed good. And of course y’all’s a word, even Spanish has a word, Ustedes (which means you all but it’s really the same difference.

        • Okie Gal

          I know, y’all just makes more sense! Do you ever just squish a ton of words to together with if like “y’all’re” or “y’all’ll”?

          • DanE

            Yeah, I think I’ve only done it once. Maybe I’ll try sometime.

          • Okie Gal

            I do it so often it’s not even funny. #okiegrammar

  • Hi, peoples! I had planned to stay anonymous, but in the short time between when I submitted this question and when it was published, God has really spoken to my heart. I want to share the story that I now have. Like I said in th epost, I have been doubting God. So much so that I did not even take communion at church because I thought I didn’t believe in “all that.” Strangely enough though, I didn’t stop reading my bible and doing my devotional each day. I thought through how I could rid my life of Christianity (which would take a whole lot for this bible baby who lives in the buckle of the Bible Belt :)) I thought through throwing out my Christian shirts (of which most of mine are) ending church involvement, the whole nine yards, but I never quit reading. I remember one day, several days ago, that I was reading something written by Paul. Randomly, I realized that I was believing what I was reading and was enjoying it. Satan immediately tried to make me doubt but this time I didn’t give in. I decided to just read. I am a huge overthinnker and I think that that is why I doubt. I say that I can’t seer god. I say I can’t ‘know” he exists, but deep down, in an intangible way, I know he is there. I realize that my view of my father (who has walked out on me and hurt me in many ways) has tragically affected my view of God. I have started telling myself not to think about it. To just rest in the deep down knowledge that he is truly there. I can look back to times when I have seen his work.
    I was a little sad when I found out that my question wouldn’t be published for a week and a half. Now I realize that had I had all of theses answers then, I would have looked at them in a very biased, nonbelieving way. Now I am able to apply what God has shown me. Thank you all so much for your encouragements and advice.

    • Hannah

      Hey Delaney,
      I totally understand your struggles…this is a battle that I believe most Christians face sometime or another in life…I faced it several years ago, and I understand—it was really tough to get through! But just like you, my answers came from the Bible, the Word which Satan was trying to make me doubt.
      God spoke right to my heart in the midst of my doubt, just as He spoke to you. 💚
      Think about this:
      Do all the founders of any pagan belief have power to touch the heart of one who reads their works? No, because they’re all dead.
      Does Satan try to make people doubtful when they are immersed in cults or pagan religions? No, because those poor followers are absolutely no threat to him..they are already enslaved in evil, just as he wants them.
      The Word of God surely is alive and powerful…and I’m so glad God speaks to us through it.
      I know these battles are terrible and heartbreaking for you, but please hold on to Jesus. God has something amazing in store for you, or else Satan would not be trying so hard to make you doubt God. Keep your eyes on Jesus, and let Him lead you through this dark time. I’m praying for you! God has certainly answered many of your questions already, but I know He is faithful to answer any others that you have too 💜
      Read Psalms 27 & 91 and Isaiah 43…I have found them to be a great comfort to my soul in difficult times, and I believe you will as well. The movies God’s Not Dead 1&2 are also amazing faith builders…I believe you would really like them and find them to be a blessing to you if you haven’t seen them yet. God bless! 💜

      • Thanks, Hannah! You are so right. And I love those movies!

    • Christina McCarty

      Delaney, thank you for this. Your story sounds not unlike mine. I was raised by two missionaries, homeschooled, and thanks to my teacher-mom I knew the bible more thoroughly as a young child than most adults. However, none of that seemed to matter much when my parents underwent a painful and ugly divorce when I was twelve, right at that crucial age of asking questions. I had a lot of anger towards my dad, which translated into anger and mistrust toward God the father, and questioning “If He is really there and He really cares about me, why did this happen to me?”

      I came to terms with God’s existence very early on, and I have never looked back from that. For me, the greatest proof of God’s existence (and perhaps greater than that, the proof that God is the Christian God,) was the miracles that I had seen. My mom was and is a woman of prayer, and she not only told us we could pray and expect results, she showed us. We didn’t have much money, and we had several instances where some appliance would break; my mom would gather my siblings and me around it, we would pray, and it would immediately begin working. When we had no money for gas, after we prayed our gas needle would go up as we drove, not down, or someone would inexplicably give us the exact amount of money we needed. I could go on, but suffice it to say there were several personal experiences we had with God’s provision that even today I can’t explain other than to say that God did it.

      Now, that doesn’t mean that I don’t still grapple with the issue to some degree. I certainly have ‘down times’ where I question if God exists. The aspects that I struggle with the most, however, are believing that God is good and kind, and that He is a father different altogether from the father experiences that I’ve had, that He is a gentle, caring, protective parent who wants to see me grow. I’ve struggled for years and continue to struggle. What has been helpful for me is connecting with my youth leaders, especially my youth pastor, and doing some counseling with them. Also, the sword of the spirit is the word of God. Once you determine in your heart that it is truth, it can cut through doubt like nothing else can. I can’t tell you if that wall that comes up to ‘God the father’ ever goes away completely, but I can tell you that it gets better. #preachingtomyself

      Thank you for your transparency here. Thank you for encouraging and challenging me with your story. If there is one last thing that I could say to you? Deuteronomy 33:27. We WILL make it through this, sister. I will be praying for you. <3

      • Thanks so much, Christina! I talk to me youth leaders as well and they are amazing.

    • Lydia Graham

      That is such a blessing, I have been praying hard for you!!!

      • Thanks for praying for me!

        • Lydia Graham

          Sure, I was glad to do it

    • Thank you so much for sharing Delaney!

    • Regan Seba

      Delaney, I just wrote a super long comment for you, but it’s waiting for approval. @Jaquelle, I promise there is nothing inappropriate about my comment, really.

      • Haha! I guess you just look suspicious 🕵🏼

        • Regan Seba

          Yeah. My comment has disappeared into the abyss of the Reb. I may never actually see it again.

          • Angela Pycroft

            I had the same problem! I spent like an hour (no kidding. It was a bit ridiculous xD) on a comment….and it dissapeared. Which is kind of sad because I spent a lot of time on it lol.

  • Savannah

    Hello Delaney!
    Thank you so much for your honesty in asking this question. Being honest is one of the most freeing things you can do: “the truth will set you free” (John 8:32). I just want to encourage you…like your father, my father also walked out on me and deeply hurt me. He has separated himself completely from my family, and is not even paying for my mom, brother and I to eat. My mom has had to go to work, all while continuing to home school my brother and I. Throughout the whole process, I have struggled with a great deal of hurt and the Lord is ever-teaching me how to forgive. However, the one thing that the Lord has shown me over and over is that He is such a Good, Good Father and will never leave or forsake me! He has a plan for your life, and He “is distressed when you are distressed”. (Isaiah 63:9). Here are some encouraging verses that talk about the Lord being a Father, as well as faithful: Psalm 68:5,146:9, Isaiah 9:6, 63:16, 64:8, 49:23b, 49:15.
    Please know that I will be praying for you! The Lord “is a rewarder of those who earnestly seek Him” (Hebrews 11:6), and He will never let you down as you stay faithful to His Word and His Truth. Like you, I have seen the Lord work in amazing ways in our family’s life, and I know that He will do the same for you.
    Just as a closing verse: ““Look at the nations and watch—
    and be utterly amazed. For I am going to do something in your days that you would not believe, even if you were told.” The Lord has used this verse to remind me that He is still working and He still has a plan for us…an amazing plan!

    Here’s an encouraging song for you: “Good, Good Father” by Chris Tomlin:

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CqybaIesbuA

    • Thanks so much, savannah! I love that song! Have you heard anthem lights version?

  • Joseph Clark

    I believe in God like the sunshine, I can see it everywhere I go everyday, even the cloudy ones. I didn’t have friends growing up, so when high school started I really needed one. I prayed for months for a friend I could connect to on a more spiritual level and have engaging conversations about Christ and the world around us, and he delivered. Her name is Alivia McGuire and she is the greatest person I have ever met, she was the one who introduced me to the Rebelution first. That is all it takes me to know God is real, is that he sent the one person I had prayed for for a long time.

  • Growing up in a Christian home is such a blessing but it can be hard to make your faith your own and not just an inheritance from your parents. So, as you struggle with the question of who God is to you, my advice would be just ask Him! Ask the Lord, “if you are real, reveal yourself to me.” He will answer.

    Regarding blind faith, I think that once you encounter God it is hard to miss Him. The heavens declare the glory of God! If you doubt that God is real, just go outside and look around and tell me how this beautiful world was made if it wasn’t made by a loving Creator. Every act of kindness, every time that God provides for you, every moment of peace, they are all little glimpses of how much God loves YOU! He loves you so much that I can’t even describe it to you. You are made in His image and if you have trusted in Him, then you are His princess/prince! So don’t doubt when you can’t see God, physically. The Bible tells us that blessed are those who believe even when they have not seen.

    Just give Him your heart, then rest in His love.
    Praying for you!

  • Read through lamentations. It might sound odd but you’d be surprised. Psalms like 88 as well and other psalms of lament. When things like this happen it can shake your foundations. Maybe the question is actually why don’t you believe in him or even why can’t you believe?

    I believe in him, I love and serve him because out of the depths he heard my cry. When the waters rolled over me he took me and set my feet on solid ground. Sometimes you lose the hallelujah because life is just unbearably hard. My situation was different from yours but there was a time when I wasn’t talking to God, I wasn’t sure that I believed in him. If he was even there, he was not the loving God that I had been told about. He seemed so callous and aloof and I didn’t understand why he was letting these things happen. He promised to look after us and yet he was just leaving my family drowning in the pain.

    In times like that, there is only one thing you can do and that’s hold on by the finger nails. Even if the most you can do each day is repeat to yourself the words of Psalm 42, ‘Hope in God O my soul for I shall yet praise him’ then keep telling yourself that even if it doesn’t feel true right now. Be honest with God. Read Job and the Psalms and Lamentations and bring your case to God. You can do that. It’s ok to do that.

    So yeah, as hard as it is right now you have to hold on. And if you find yourself slipping remember that none can be lost from God’s hand. He’s not letting you go anytime soon. Take time to lament and to be angry and to ask questions of God because it will help you heal.

    In the words of Paul, ‘Stand fast in the faith, be brave, be strong.’

  • Jason

    I read something in Romans recently that I thought might encourage you. It’s a little strong, but it’s the Bible:

    “For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who by their unrighteousness suppress the truth. For what can be known about God is plain to them, because God has shown it to them. For his invisible attributes, namely, his eternal power and divine nature, have been clearly perceived, ever since the creation of the world, in the things that have been made. So they are without excuse. For although they knew God, they did not honor him as God or give thanks to him, but they became futile in their thinking, and their foolish hearts were darkened. Claiming to be wise, they became fools, and exchanged the glory of the immortal God for images resembling mortal man and birds and animals and creeping things.”–Romans 1:18-22

    It can definitely sometimes be discouraging. Why isn’t God acting how we want him to when we want him to? But God’s ways are always above our ways. I hope this is encouraging to you. I just ran across it I think the day I first read this question.

    I’ll be praying!

    • Okie Gal

      Hey Jason! I think it’s really neat that you mentioned these verses, and they’re helpful, but it might be good to balance it out with another passage (maybe from Romans 3, or 8). The whole book goes together and since Paul doesn’t leave it at God’s wrath –but uses it as a way to explain grace and the gospel — we should do the same.

      Just a suggestion, I don’t want to be a comment dictator.

      • Jason

        No. Thanks Okie! That’s really true and helpful. I wasn’t even reading Romans when I came across this. I had printed it out and put it in my an old notebook, and it was just really cool to find it.

        But yes. . .Romans 8 is such a beautiful chapter as well aka. like my favorite chapter in the whole Bible, and I really hope my comment didn’t come across as judgmental. Doubt is something everyone goes through, and this is a very hard situation. Please forgive me if anything I said felt judging!

        • Okie Gal

          Oh no! I’m not at all offended. I think it’s a really good point, and worth considering — it’s just not the end of the story. I hope I wasn’t rude.

  • Tatiana R.

    It’s scary to open up and talk about our doubts. I admire your courage and honesty. You’re certainly not alone in feeling this way. Sometimes God feels so far away and it feels like we’re faking it. The key is to not let doubt stop you from seeking Him. Even the Old Testament believers (e.g., Job and David) went through pain and sometimes felt far away from God. But when they doubted His goodness, they didn’t let it fester inside — they cried out to God, they questioned Him openly. Even if it feels forced, let your doubt drive you to talk to God even more. I find Phil 4:6 helpful: “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and pleading, with thanksgiving, make your requests known to God.”

    I’ve never seriously doubted God’s existence, but I have doubted His favor. Sometimes I felt cold towards God, like He wasn’t listening to me. I felt I had sinned one too many times and this time, He wouldn’t forgive me. It was a scary feeling. I hadn’t realized what Christ’s sacrifice accomplished, that He is even MORE gracious and forgiving than I am sinful! Back to doubts, though: I think God may sometimes allow us to feel far away from Him as a “wake up call” to remind us to seek Him. I know it’s done that for me when I’ve been neglecting to pray and read His Word. I pray God blesses you with firm conviction of His presence and goodness.

    • Tatiana R.

      Also, I recommend the book More Than a Carpenter by Josh McDowell. It’s about whether Jesus is who he said he is, and whether he claimed to be God at all.

  • Brennen Kafer

    I’ll take this time to say that I feel like I just go through the motions sometimes. I hardly ever read the bible and feel like Emmet from The Lego Movie walking into a mass gathering of master builders. However, here’s the juicy part: I still believe in God.

    I know, somewhere in my head, he finds reason to believe in me. How is it I can pick up my pen and send 3 pages worth of writing to the printer in 30-45 minutes? I have some sort of ability, something I can use for the greater good that God has instilled in me. To conclude my comment, I’ll say this:

    If God has faith in the guy who hasn’t taken the first steps towards him, or even his own destiny, God has faith in you too.

    Also, I can never seem to stop typing, so that is why I can praise you for your courage in coming forward. If God is inside of us, then you don’t need to explain to him what’s going on because he knows it’s important. I went through divorce when I was 7 years old and the scars still hold. Lastly, God has patience. So long as you are willing to come forth and willing to come back to him, he is willing to make you his greatest asset of all.

    I will stop typing now… 😉

    • Jesse

      that’s encouraging.

  • Dear Anonymous,

    Firstly, I applaud you for your bravery in posting these questions. Asking these type of questions reveal insecurities, doubts, and lapses in faith and require courage and bravery in voicing them. You are at a point in your life that all young people raised in Christian homes must pass through, and that is making the faith of your parents the your own. It’s taking all the head knowledge you’ve accumulated over the years and letting is travel down the 18 inches to your heart. I know that you have doubts about what you know about God and that the pain from your parents’ recent divorce is causing you to question the character and trustworthiness of an invisible God. However, I firmly believe that if you remain faithful and firmly make the decision to blindly trust your Heavenly Father even though your earthly parents have failed you, that you will come out of this with greater faith and a stronger belief in the truths of the Bible than you would have without this experience. But on the other hand, if you allow the Enemy to grow these seeds of doubt into a thriving tree that will choke out the light of the gospel in your life, you will join the ranks of those who make up the statistics of at 80% of young people raised in Christian walk away from the faith of their parents. I earnestly pray and hope that will not be your story!

    Now to answer your questions…

    As I was praying over and seeking the Lord’s direction in regards to your doubts, the passage He brought to mind was Jeremiah 29:11-14a. Now the first verse in this passage is one of the most well known and most often quoted verses in the Bible. However, the part I want you to focus on is after verse eleven.

    “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will hear you. You will seek me and find me, when you seek me with all your heart. I will be found by you, declares the LORD.”

    This promise was given to the people of Israel after they were sent into exile in Babylon. It is a promise of hope; a promise that God will always be there, you just need to reach out to Him; and a promise that if you seek God whole-heartedly, you will find Him. Also notice the last sentence. “I will be found by you.” God isn’t playing hide-and-seek with us, and He isn’t trying to dodge us like the plague. He is patiently waiting for us to search Him out, to talk with Him, and genuinely want to know Him—not know facts about Him, but to actually form a personally relationship with Him. He promises that if we call upon Him and come and pray to Him, He will hear us.

    God often allows difficult trying things into our lives to test us and see if during these times we will draw closer to Him or reject and blame Him. This was true for the people of Israel who rebelled again God and lived in idolatry. God allowed the growing empire of Babylon to defeat the Israelites and take them in to captivity. However, God didn’t give up or leave His people. It was during this time that the promises in Jeremiah 29 were given. So don’t let this trial make you doubt what you know about God, but let it draw you closer and into deeper relationship with the One who is waiting for you to turn to Him.

    It can be a scary thing to step into the unknown; to put yourself out there for something that as you say requires “blind faith.” So I have another verse for you. This one is from Malachi 3:10 and the context is God rebuking Israel for not giving Him a tithe or portion of their abundance. I know that this may seem irrelevant, but bear with me. While this verse if talking about tithes, specifically that of produce and grain, the core issue was that the Israelites where unwilling to trust God. They were holding back their produce because they were afraid of being without food. But see what God tells them:

    “‘Bring the whole tithe into the storehouse, that there may be food in my house. Test me in this,’ says the LORD Almighty, ‘and see if I will not throw open the floodgates of heaven and pour out so much blessing that you will not have room enough for it.’”

    God told them to test Him, and see if He will not pour out abundant blessings upon them! The same is true for us with our heart and our affections. It’s not that God wants our stuff and needs more, but He wants us to trust Him. He wants us to trustingly give ourselves to Him and watch His faithfulness at work and see Him provide for us and give us abundantly more than we could ever imagine. So as you resolve to step out in faith and trust, giving God your heart, remember this verse and that whatever you trustingly give God, He will more than adequately give back.

    Another question you ask is “how can you fall in love with a concept that requires blind faith?” I love how you use the term “fall in love” because that is what God wants—a loving relationship with us. But this doesn’t happen overnight. “Falling in love” happens over time and faithfulness in pursuing a close relationship. So don’t worry if you’re not “in love” yet. Just be patient and earnestly seek after God and test Him and see if He won’t reveal Himself to you.

    Finally, you ask how we can know God is who He says He is. This is something that requires faith, but I have written a lengthy article on showing God’s trustworthiness from Scripture. So if you’re really looking for answers, you can visit http://www.soifixmyeyes.com/who-is-god-series/2-trustworthy and discover the trustworthiness of God and that truth that He does not lie.

    I know that this has been a VERY long reply to your questions, but I feel that these are important to answer and vital to your spiritual well being. I hope that this has been helpful and not tedious, and that you will take all these things to heart and start seeking after the true and living God. Remember God’s promise in James 4:8, “Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you.”

    I’m praying for you as you wrestle with your faith and seek answers to these big questions! Don’t let the Enemy win this battle for your heart, but keep fighting and searching after truth!

    Your sister in Christ,
    Kristin
    Hebrew 12:1-3

  • Andrew Gwinn

    It’s quite simple to explain the existence of God. It’s a well know scientific law that matter cannot be created or destroyed. Matter doesn’t pop in and out of existence. With this in mind, how can the universe be here without a Creator? There is no other possible explanation. We can also believe who God says he is through what he does. If someone told you that they could eat a whole pizza in one sitting, you’d want to see them do that in order to test if what they said was true. In the same way, we can test what God says about himself by looking at what he does. God reveals his nature in his dealing with humanity. We can see in the flood that he is a just God, but also a merciful God toward those who have faith in him. Jesus’ dealing with mankind show who God is. We see that Jesus was loving, gracious, merciful, meek, loving, caring, and so much more!

  • Angela Pycroft

    Let’s admit it; I wrote a LOT. I hope you can get something out of my pages of info! In fact, it was so long that I had to split it up into several parts so that it would actually get posted 
    To be honest, at first I believed in God because that seemed the way to go. I still remember kneeling as a little 5-year-old in my parent’s bedroom while my mom did her makeup, asking God to come into my heart.
    I pretty much had no idea what that meant other than that I was “saved” and would now go to Heaven.
    However, I am now 14 and have spent the last two years trying to figure out what I believe and why it matters.
    I believe in Christ because the Bible points to Him, science points to Him, the past shows His presence, and so does our daily life. Bear with me here!
    First of all, the Bible. The entire OT points to Christ, in fact, the whole thing is the “rising action” leading to the climax of the story; Christ. The Bible is completely historically correct, and many prophecies mentioned in the Bible, such as that of Alexander the Great, have come true. There is no proven historical evidence that points to the falsity of the Bible.
    Second, the scientific evidence. There is not one scientific fact in the Bible that is not supported by modern science. The Institute for Creation Research (icr.org) is a wonderful database and news center for this subject. They have many, many scientists that publish volumes of scientific research in easy-to-read articles both on the website and in their magazine “Acts and Facts”.
    Thirdly, He is shown in our daily life. Think about it. Where would we be without a God to give us our rules, morals, aspirations, and dreams? No better off or different from the animals we are surrounded by. I’m not kidding. After all, where would we get our morals? Our motivations to build mighty civilizations, or our reasons to uphold those once they are created? I’m going to divide this section into two parts. It’s going to be long :).

    • Angela Pycroft

      Agh everything I write is waiting for approval……. C’mon!!! Lol

  • Angela Pycroft

    Oh something else I wanted to address. You said in your question “How can you fall in love with something that requires blind faith?” You have, like many others, fallen prey to the common line “There is no proof for Christianity. All the evidence is on evolution’s side, and Christians are just blindly following their own ideas without thinking about them”. Don’t feel bad; it is a common mistake, one that I used to make.However, in the Bible it is said that “It is the glory of God to conceal a matter, and to seek out a matter is the glory of kings”. (That is somewhere around Psalms/Proverbs I think. Exactly where I don’t know). Which means that the LAST thing God wants Christians to do is blindly following Him without any idea why. If you think that Christianity is just a matter of blindly following God, then you are not digging deep into it. I recommend More than a Carpenter by Josh McDowell as well as Mere Christianity by C.S.Lewis. Those two books are extremely helpful in this area, and they helped me come back to Christ from my world of apathy. Christianity STRONGLY supports science because it is the exploration of God’s creation. Hold on… what? Christianity supports science?!?!?! Isn’t that exactly what Christians are against? God v. science, right? Faith versus reason?
    NO. No, no, no, and again, no. What Christians should be against is the modern scientific worldview; a naturalistic, anti-theistic atheism that says nature and matter is all there is and God cannot possibly exist. After all, they say, who needs God when all the answers are found in evolution? That is not Christian; neither is a belief in evolution, deism, etc. (While I cannot give an in-depth answer to why Christianity overcomes this without writing another book (which I’m sure you don’t want me to do xD), you can visit icr.org, where your Christian questions about science are answered. Total Truth by Nancy Pearcey is a wonderful book on worldview, if you are interested in that) However, what Christianity STRONGLY supports is the exploration and discovery of God’s creation in all its complexity through scientific research and experimentation; not the anti-God, pro evolution connotation we often call to mind when we hear the word science.
    You don’t have to keep your Christian beliefs in the private sector. Don’t keep it in a little box that you open every Sunday for church, and close again when you leave. Explore God’s creation, study history to your heart’s content, etc., but do it with God in mind; science was never meant to be limited to the study of evolution.

  • cowboyclayt

    I am so sorry to hear that you are going through such a rough time right now! :( My parents are also going through a divorce right now, so I know how it feels. About a year ago, my church did a small group study called, ‘Behold your God’ by John Snyder. It helped me see who God is and how to know Him better. I don’t know where I would be spiritually right now if my church had not done that study! I don’t want to make this comment to long, so I will give you three ideas:
    1. Pray. Talk to God as if He was a person sitting with you. Pour out your heart to Him. My sister finds it helpful to write down her prayers.

    2. Read your Bible for 30 minutes each day. I get up at 6:00 each morning and read my bible first thing. Make it the biggest priority of the day.

    3. Get a ‘Behold your God’ book. You can get one on amazon. There is a DVD set that goes with them, but they are kind of expensive! :/ Go to Beholdyourgod.org to listen to some of the best sermons out there from some of the best pastors!

    I hope this helps you!

  • Angelique

    “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. Matthew 7:7 Ask God to reveal himself to you.

  • I am so sorry.
    Please keep in mind that God is not punishing you with these trials. He’s preparing to launch you into an amazing future. I can’t tell you that God is real and make you believe–you have to find that knowledge for yourself. Just take a moment and consider everything around you, all of nature, space, earth, ocean, everything down to the tiniest of atoms. How can this work by chance? How can this be without a Supreme Creator with a Divine Plan?
    I know blind faith can be tough sometimes, but it doesn’t always have to be blind. If you prayerfully and earnestly study the Scriptures and pray to know if you’re loved and if God is real, you’ll get an answer. But it must be done with no doubt in your heart. If you truly want and seek and answer, you’ll get one. Keep in mind that it can come in any way, shape, or form. It could come immediately, or in ten years. It could come by a thought, a feeling, or a person. Just be patient and trust in God. Once you get your answer, don’t let it go. Take it and run with it. Run to God. Strengthen your relationship with Him, and you’ll be able to overcome anything.
    I promise.
    James 1:5-6
    “If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him. But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave on the sea driven with the wind and tossed.”

    • KatelynS

      This is a exactly what I wanted to say, but you put it beautifully!

  • Erica Floret

    Hello, Delaney!
    I am very sorry to hear that your parents are getting divorced! My parents are getting divorced as well, so I know how you feel!

    Here are some things that helped me:
    1. Praying and reading the Bible and really just seeking God for who He is.
    2. Singing hymns! :) I love hymns, and I love singing! At the end of this, I will list some of my favorite hymns that helped me through my parent’s divorce.
    3. Talking to our pastor. I met with him twice, and he was very helpful!

    Remember that God is all-knowing, his love is unending, his plans are perfect, he works all things together for good to those who love Him, and he promises to be a Father to the fatherless.

    As for why I believe in God….I really don’t see how any religion other than Christianity makes sense! I believe in God because I have seen His hand at work in my life providing for me, helping me, loving me, etc. My parents split finances a month or two ago and our finances were tight. We needed $400 dollars just to pay for propane!
    Someone gave us $500 dollars anonymously, which was more than we needed for propane. That was just the beginning. We have seen God provide for us multiple times in different ways through gift cards, meals, cash, someone paying a bill for us, etc. We have had everything we needed! Was that just coincidence? No! It was the hand of God! I don’t need anything more than that to know that there is a God and that He is the God of the Bible!

    Hymns that really helped me:
    I Could Sing Of Your Love Forever, You Are So Good To Me, God Is Love, Your Love is Amazing, and The Solid Rock.

    Here is a quote I really like:
    “When you are down to nothing,
    God is up to something.”
    -Anonymous

    Rest in your Heavenly Father. He knows your feelings and He LOVES YOU! Always remember that! Trust in God, my friend! He will take care of you! I know I’ve never met you before, but I say “my friend” because the Bible says that the believers are brothers and sisters in Christ. How are you in your walk with Christ and your belief in him now after so many comments and encouragements? I feel for you and pray for you everyday! I know this was long, but I hope it’s helpful!

    Your sister in Christ,
    Erin

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