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When is it okay to compare yourself to others?





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  • Seth Yoder

    In a job interview! πŸ˜†πŸ˜† But no, seriously, I would say it’s ok to compare ourselves to others to make them look better or as a sort of compliment, but other than that, I don’t think we should make it a practice of comparing ourselves to others. That’s like measuring something with a faulty ruler. We need to compare ourselves to God’s standards.

    • Josh A

      Hey Seth, how do you get the special emoji thingies on disqus? I didn’t know there was a way you could do that…

      • Seth Yoder

        I’m using an iPod. If you’re on an idevice, go to settings/ general/keyboard/keyboards/add keyboard. Find the emoji keyboard. Now when you type, you can switch between keyboards by pressing the button to the left of your space bar. Idk how to (or if you can) do it on an android device. πŸ˜„πŸ˜ƒπŸ˜€πŸ˜Šβ˜ΊοΈπŸ˜‰πŸ˜πŸ˜˜πŸ˜šπŸ˜—πŸ˜™πŸ˜œπŸ˜πŸ˜›πŸ˜³πŸ˜πŸ˜”πŸ˜ŒπŸ˜’πŸ˜žπŸ˜£πŸ˜‹

        • Josh A

          I’m on a Mac unfortunately. :-/ I thought there was an HTML shortcut or something. Thanks, though! =)

          • Seth Yoder

            No problemo!

          • You might be able to do it on mac if you’re on safari by going to Edit > Special Characters. :)

          • Josh A

            WOW! YOU’RE RIGHT! man I have like hundreds of smilies I never knew about! Thanks so much! πŸ˜„πŸ˜†πŸ‘€πŸβš½οΈπŸš™ bwahahahaha

          • Great, thanks @jacksonbiblebee:disqus… now we’ll be bombarded by a cabillion smiley faces with every comment he posts… :)

          • Oh my word, what happened… why did the tag turn out like that?? Correction: @jacksonbiblebee:disqus

          • AAAAHHH!!! Never-mind…

          • Josh A

            Oh, that happened to me when I first started tagging people…it looks fine now – what you have to do is hit the “edit comment” button then hit save and it will pop up normally. =)

          • Josh A

            Whaddya mean????? 😜

          • Yikes, what face is that?? It looks like a winking zombie face.

          • Josh A

            “face with stuck-out tongue and winking eye” lol. =)

          • Uh-huh…

      • GodsThespian

        I wanted to know too, but unfortunately I’m on XP :(

        • Josh A

          Windows XP??? I thought that went extinct, like, 50 million years ago lol just kidding. πŸ˜‰

          • GodsThespian

            lol :)

          • Seth Yoder

            Ummmm. Dats evowution. You shouldn’t talk wike dat. 😱😁

          • Josh A

            Haha that made me laugh. 😝

    • Gabrielle

      AMEN!

    • Preach it, yo.

  • Comparing yourself to others is not wrong, in fact, many times, it’s helpful. Comparing yourself to others is only wrong if it builds pride in your heart or you use that comparison to put others down, mentally or vocally.

    However, many times comparing yourself to other people can help us. For example, I go to taekwondo tournaments constantly so that I not only learn, but so I can compare myself to other competitors, learning my weakness and things that they can do that I should work on. We can do that in other things too besides sports.

    When I compare my faith with certain other believers faith, or Scriptural heroes’ faith, it shows me how much I still have to learn and grow. It helps to specifically identify the areas I’m weak in and need to grow in.

    Comparing yourself to other people is not always wrong, in fact, I would highly recommend that we do it sometimes! As long as we don’t use it as a means to build myself up and tear others down, it can be a very helpful tool to helping to me develop new skills or motivation, either in sports or in a relationship with Christ.

    • Seth Yoder

      Right on, Taylor!

  • Josh A

    It’s not a sin in and of itself to compare yourself to others, but we should focus on comparing ourselves with Jesus and His perfect example.

    #shortanswer =)

    • Gabrielle

      I don’t know if I’d use the word COMPARE, but rather the word BECOME more like Him. That’s just me.

      • But in comparing we see that we might not add up to who he is, so then we naturally start wanting to better ourselves and act more like Jesus. So I guess you are both right! :)

        • Gabrielle

          Agreed!! I see what you’re saying. I was just thinking about what the word compare really means. I guess it’s still a relevant word.

      • Josh A

        I second exactly what @disqus_4aLd26vJM2:disqus said. =)

  • I think it is good to compare yourself with others if it is in a productive way. For instance seeing how you can learn from someone else. But I think it is not good to think someone else inferior to yourself or to feel discouraged about how much better someone else is to you.

    • GodsThespian

      Hey! You said what I was going to say… now my comment will be much shorter :)

      Are you new? I don’t recognize your name…

      • I’ve only posted a few times, I read Do Hard Things a while ago but I only just got around to looking at the website.

        • Josh A

          Welcome to the Rebelution! Nice name, btw. πŸ˜‰

        • Welcome! And great comment, I completely agree. =)

        • GodsThespian

          Sounds like me a couple of months ago!

    • Clare Pulley

      Great reply! I totally agree!!!

    • Gabrielle

      I agree.

  • GodsThespian

    I think that @joshuarcarpenter:disqus just summed up what I was going to say…
    I have another question: Who submitted this DQ?

    • Gabrielle S.

      I’m not sure who submitted it, but whoa, you changed your username!!! Small observation, but I was expecting to see your old username above that comment! The new one’s awesome, too. :)

      • Gabrielle

        I noticed that too. I saw the same picture but a new username, so I wasn’t sure if it was the same person!! LOL!!

      • GodsThespian

        Thanks :)

    • Whoa! You DID change it! What does “Gods Thespian” mean?

      • Nathanael B.

        I believe that Thespian is an actor. Soo, an actor for God…I think

      • GodsThespian

        God’s Actor/Actresss. I just like the word “thespian” better than “actress”. I think it sounds cooler… And it’s Greek!! :)

    • I did! haha :)

      • GodsThespian

        ‘Twas a really good question!

        • Thanks! Btw, you’re into theatre right? I love performing in general, including theatre. ^_^

          • GodsThespian

            Well, the very little experience I have had with “real” theatre has been amazing, so I’m into theatre but love the idea more… I love acting in general! What sort of performing have you done?

          • More singing actually. But I’ve also acted, danced, and done backstage stuff. ^_^ Mostly in school.

          • GodsThespian

            Aside from the mime team I’ve been with for two years, I’ve done mostly singing when I actually perform. I’ve never danced… How do you like it?
            What type of singing do you do?

  • Gabrielle

    In the words of Andy Stanley, “There’s no win in comparison.” We should never compare ourselves to others, but rather accept the way God made us and be who He created us to be.

    • Nathanael B.

      really off topic but I like your pic! Do you play violin/ viola?

      • Gabrielle

        Haha!! :) Yep, I’ve been playing violin for about 5 yrs now. I hope to learn piano, cello, and acoustic guitar also. That’s actually a pic I took of my violin.

        • Nathanael B.

          I used to play violin too! Nice, that’s quite a number of instruments to learn! Wish you luck! :)

          • Gabrielle

            Thanks. We’ll see what happens. When I get a job I’ll start looking for a guitar and try to teach myself.

          • Nathanael B.

            nice, a word of advice though, start off with a cheap guitar. then work your way up to nicer guitars. :)

          • Gabrielle

            Good idea, thanks. I’ll be sure to keep that in mind. :)

          • Nathanael B.

            no problem!

          • Gabrielle

            Are you pretty active on the Reb?

          • Nathanael B.

            Most of the time… at least over break. Otherwise I’m on when I can!

          • Gabrielle

            Yea, I’m on when I’m able to. Along with the Reb, I comment on another blog also. Sometimes I miss several posts though, from being busy.

          • Nathanael B.

            I know right! If I can ask, what other blog?

          • Gabrielle

            It’s called Lies Young Women Believe, and my friend’s: kidsofcharacter.com/emily.

          • Nathanael B.
          • Gabrielle

            No, I’ll check it out sometime. Gotta sign off for now. Great talking to you!! :)

          • Nathanael B.

            same here! hope to bump into you soon!

          • Gabrielle

            k. Hope so too.

          • I love LYWB!

          • Gabrielle

            I KNOW RIGHT!! IT’S AWESOME!! :)

          • Ah, I just began trying to teach myself guitar! I’ve always loved acoustic guitar!

          • Gabrielle

            How did teaching yourself guitar go?

          • Very difficult! I was/am trying to learn chords and chord charts, but being away from home (and my guitar) for about a month, followed by a week of illness, and school deadlines, I haven’t been able to follow up on the work I started. Sometimes it’s hard to make time!

          • Gabrielle

            Yea. I understand that. Life gets REALLY busy!! Gotta sign off for now, but I hope I see or meet up with you again!! :)

          • Sounds good! See ya round!

        • I play the cajon… bonus points to anyone who knows what that is. :)

          • cara d

            Did you know cajon is gaelic for box? Two guesses why πŸ˜› Is yours just a regular or can you adjust it to salsa?

          • That’s super cool… and I’m not surprised. :) Mine is a regular. Right now we have it set up as the base drum at my church. Apparently the congregation likes its smooth sound. πŸ˜€

          • Josh A

            Oh is that the drummy thingy you sit on? My dad wants to buy one of those…

          • Josh A

            Drummy thingy. Just brilliant, Josh. That makes you look real smart lol.

          • Drummy thing… oh my goodness Josh thats amazing. πŸ˜€ Yes its the boxy drumming thingy-ma-bob.

          • Josh A

            Haha do I still get bonus points? πŸ˜‰

          • You get extra bonus points.

          • Josh A

            Lol =)

          • Gabrielle

            I’ve never heard of the cajon, bu I’ll look it up. No points for me!! :)

          • I know what that is!! It sounds like a drum set (like an acoustic drum set) it has snares in it to give it a snare like sound. Do I get any points?! haha! πŸ˜‰

          • I looooove the way it sounds! You definitely get points! haha:)

          • YES! haha! :)

        • cara d

          Definitely do cello!! I play fiddle and cello too. Be sure to learn Shostakovich’s ‘Romance from the Gadfly’ on your cello when you get there, it’s just beautiful! :)

          • Gabrielle

            Thanks for the tip! :)

        • YouTube is a great place to find tutorials on how to play guitar. My older brother taught me the basics and I have picked up extra tips off of YouTube. And someone said to start off with a cheap guitar but I recommend a nicer/cheap guitar. Check out Luna guitars they have some really nice cheaper priced guitars with great sound (I am saving for one that is $239 from them- really great price for a guitar). I play my dad’s Takamine, and it was less than $500 I think. But DON’T buy super cheap ones, it is easier to play nicer ones and worth saving up the extra money. Just my advice. :) P.S. I play violin, too!!

          • Gabrielle

            Thanks for the advice!! :)

          • No problem! :)

  • Emma

    This is a good question. I think that comparing yourself to others can be good, and it can be bad. I think that it would be ok to compare yourself with others in a productive way. It would not be good if you get discouraged, and think that someone else is better than you. I also want to say that it is a good way to compare your self to other Christians, and you should also try to act like them. I know that my reasons are just like @joshuarcarpenter:disqus, but I just wanted to say that I agree with what he said.

  • I don’t think you should ever compare yourself to someone. We have all been made in our own special way, we all have our own talents, our own flaws, our own good traits, and our own bad traits. Sure, there might be qualities in someone that you might want to try to better yourself in but just know you will never be like them. We shouldn’t live trying to add up to our own expectations, God has created you in the way he needed you to be created. :)

  • Gabrielle S.

    I think, in a way, it’s healthy to compare yourself to others. I look at my friends and family all the time, and I admire them for their God-given talents and skills. I take different parts of said talents and skills, and use them as role models for my own life. For example, I hear one of my friends sing, and I use her voice as a goal for my own vocal growth. I hear my friend Jo speak, and I pray that I’ll be able to inspire others with my words as much as he does. In fact, I probably would have been a lukewarm Christian for the rest of my life if I hadn’t compared myself to my friends last year and realized that I wasn’t totally on fire for God. And like others are saying, while comparing yourself to other people can be good, since God put them here to help us grow as Christians, our one comparison for every person and situation should be the life of Jesus Christ. :)

  • Haylie

    Thinking as i type, so, stay with me here :)

    Honestly, I don’t think it’s helpful to COMPARE yourself to another person. When you see something in someones life that you admire, comparing yourself with the person will usually only leave you feeling empty. But, admiring that quality, and striving for it isn’t wrong! Looking at the skills of others, and asking God if it is His will for you to have them too IS healthy. But you have to be content with “no” as an answer. I think that that is slightly different then comparing.

    Also, i think that there is a way to compare yourself to someone without it being a sin, but it so easily distracts us from the One we should be running to and striving to become like. Jesus.

    But, i want to know what the rest of y’all think!

    • Comparing yourself to someone else can often one of the best ways to realize, “Hey, Jim has a great attitude. I really struggle with that. Maybe I should work on that more!” The “comparing yourself” step is, in my opinion, like recognizing that “Hey, this person does x better than me. I should work on x.” For example, Trent Blake has a better Yoda impersonation than me, I should really work on that. Comparison is the first stage, when I realize that my Yoda impersonation is not as good as Trent’s. It’s not necessarily wrong to compare; it’s only wrong if I use that comparison to build up my own pride or tear someone else down.

      Now, a healthy use of comparison with others would be that I now use that knowledge to work on a better Yoda impersonation (silly example, but think of it in other areas too.

      Does that make any sense? I agree with you that one of the most common problems with comparison with other people is that we begin trying to imitate people we admire (even people with good character qualities) instead of Jesus. Thanks for your thoughts!

      • Haylie

        Yeah, that makes sense. I think your elaboration is great :) Thanks for replying!

  • Comparing yourself to another person in a religious sense isnt okay. I’ve fallen prey to the lie that I am better than most people in the world because I am a Christian. This is so false. God doesn’t love me any more than he loves a gang member.
    It’s easy to drive down the street and look at the girls my age that are parading in short shorts, and think that I’ve got things all figured out. They are blind and yes, I’ve been rescued from that. But just because I’m a Christian doesnt mean that God loves me more. I have been rescued by Jesus’ blood, not by anything I’ve done. So if I’m to boast, may it only be in the Lord.
    I DO think it’s okay to compare what you have with others. Not in a boasting way, but in a humble and eye-opening way. Going on a mission trip to a third-world country should open your eyes to all that you have, and you should compare your life with the life that people on the streets are living. God can use this to transform your way of thinking, make you more grateful, and do something to help these less fortunate people. For example, I did a science project in fourth grade about filthy water. God used this experience to transform the way I see water. He has led me to hold fundraisers for drilling water wells and sponsor organizations that are dedicated to providing clean water to impoverished areas.
    I hope this makes sense… I was just thinking as I typed. (Like @a_haylie:disqus said)

    • It did make sense! And I’m so guilty of what you were talking about in the beginning. Let us boast only in the Lord. :)

    • Gabrielle

      Totally agree.

    • I agree with what you said about it being a good thing, in some instances, to compare yourself with others; but in the same way as you may think more highly of yourself, thus tearing others down (even if only mentally) when you compare yourself to others you may be in an equal amount of danger of tearing yourself down. I mean, I find it easy to look around and think, that person has it all. Smart, popular, good looking and Godly. How incredible is that? I’ll never be “all that”. Then you find yourself having a self inflicted pity party which is not only a completely worthless waste of time, but it can prevent you from being the witness you need to be. You have to have just the right balance. Compare yourself to the Godly role models in your life and let their testimonies encourage you to strive to spend more time and effort in your walk with the Lord and strengthen your witness. Compare only for the sake of your personal improvement, whether that improvement be mental or spiritual.

    • Haylie

      Super helpful answer, Brooklyn :)

  • Jacob Carignan

    That’s a tough Question. I definately agree that comparing yourself as someone better then Somebody else is not Ok. Jesus had some pretty strong words for those who do that. However, when you are comparing yourself to someone better then you (Like countless others on the thread have said already) It is a chance to see what you could be doing better.

    • Hi Jacob! Yes, I agree that there are instances in Scripture where Jesus condemned comparing oneself as better than another, like when he rebuked the Pharisee who thanked God because he wasn’t as sinful as the tax collector (Luke 18:1-14).

  • Clare

    I think comparison done constructively is a good thing, but the trouble for me is when I become envious of someone else’s strengths, or beat myself up (figuratively), or idolize them, or even tear them down in my mind in order to bring them down to my level. When I catch myself in those thought patterns, I need to repent and keep an eye on my comparison-making. Does anyone have any thoughts on how avoid destructive comparisons and cultivate good ones?

    • Cassie

      My first thought was ‘cognitive therapy’ (can you tell I like psychology?). πŸ˜› Basically that’s just deliberately replacing negative thoughts with positive, realistic ones. Anyway, that’s kinda of the top of my head, probably not a huge amount of help, being quite vague. I might have a think and give a more detailed answer later. (Alternatively, I may well totally forget about it… :P).

      • Hi Cassie! What do you mean when you say ‘realistic’ thoughts? :)

        • Cassie

          Well, in this case it would be something like replacing ‘Oh, she’s so wonderful, I suck, I’ll never be as good as that’ etc with ‘Actually, God made me awesome, and loves me no matter what! And you know what, that person has other flaws too – there’s no such thing as a perfect human. I shouldn’t compare myself to them like this – God gave them certain strengths, and he gave me others.’ Essentially, bad comparison is unrealistic – it does not take into account all of reality, or all truths about this situation. We need to, with God’s help, replace those unrealistic thoughts with ones that rest on His truth and are true to reality. Does that make sense?

          P.S. Hopefully I’ve made it clear enough above, but I do NOT applaud ‘positive (or ‘realistic’) thinking’ as the cure-all for comparison, or anything else for that matter. We can’t fix this by ourselves. We need God’s grace and strength.

      • Clare

        Cool thanks!

  • Josiah J.

    We should never compare ourselves amongst ourselves. However, we can examine another persons life, and discern what is good and bad in their life, possibly, incorporating the good parts into your own life style.

    So: comparing = bad.
    Examining and discerning another persons life = fine.
    Am I making sense to anyone?

    PS: I have been on a trip, so that is why I haven’t been posting. πŸ˜‰

    • Yes I totally agree. As long as we aren’t examining their life in order to make us feel better about ourselves.

      • Josiah J.

        Motive is very important. Again, I think, what your saying would be examining and then comparing. (He looks bad, so that justifies my evil.) We are still comparing.

      • Josiah J.

        Some people are saying the same thing as me. Some of it has to do with semantics. Comparing in the sense that people are better or worse because of their actions or thoughts would be, in my opinion, wrong. Finding positive aspects of another person and applying it to your life, I think, is fine.

        Other people also pointed out that our ultimate example is Jesus.

  • Cassie

    Haven’t looked through all the comments, so not sure how many people have said what I’m about to say (I know @prayerwrrior:disqus came pretty close).
    Comparing is only OK when seeking inspiration. For example, I look at my friend who prays way more than I do. I DON’T think “Oh, I’m such a bad Christian, I pray way less, she’s better than I am…” etc etc. That’s bad comparison. What I DO think is “Wow, that’s such a great example! I want to pray more, like X does.” Comparison is only OK if it leads to inspiration, challenge and encouragement. Not negative thoughts + feelings. Not low self-esteem. Oh, and don’t idolise the other person. They’re still flawed.
    Actually, speaking of self-esteem, I think another thing to keep in mind with comparison is this: Even when we are engaging in healthy comparison (as defined above), we need to make sure we are still seeing ourselves as God sees us. No matter how much or how little we pray, or how much we want to be like so-and-so who does such-and-such that we know we should do, God still loves us. In Him, we are everything we were created to be. Our striving to be better followers of Christ will not make us MORE His children.
    And also, as others have said: while we can compare and make ourselves feel bad, we can also compare to make ourselves feel better. That’s not good either.

    • Josiah J.

      Your post is clear, to me. You have a different way of saying what I was trying to say below. I like it, and I agree. :)

      • Cassie

        Thanks bro. :) Yes, I think most of us are saying pretty much the same thing in different ways. Which is cool, cause different people will get more out of some comments, others out of others. And all our slightly different explanations and slants on the topic help get across both the central answer that most of us agree on, and also a stack of helpful peripheral details. Huzzah for the awesomeness of these DQs!!

        • Josiah J.

          I really like the DQs. I just wish I could meet everyone here in person. Most everyone here seems like they would be fun to talk to. :)

          Oh, and if anyone is ever bored, they can pray for me. I can always use it. πŸ˜‰

          • Cassie

            Well, I’m rarely bored, but I would be happy to pray for you! :) Anything particular you want prayer for?

          • Josiah J.

            Pray that I would learn to love God and others as myself. Thanks. :)

          • Cassie

            Sure thing! :)

    • Great thoughts, Cassie! Thank you for posting! ^_^

      • Cassie

        Thanks @paoquiero:disqus!

      • Cassie

        Thanks @paoquiero:disqus!

  • Carson Sheppard

    I think any comparison other than spiritual/religious comparison is ok.

  • tmselden

    Maybe I have seen too much comparison in my lifetime to see the benefit of it. We are told in scripture to “examine ourselves” not others. Comparison with others has a huge potential of creating jealousy and pride and elevation of man. Compare yourself in light of scripture. It will always keep you challenged but will also give you assurance that you are a child of God loved by Him and valuable to Him.

    • Yes, I definitely agree that comparison can create jealousy and pride. I’ve been there and honestly still struggle with it. Whoever sees this, please include me in your prayers. :) God bless!

      • tmselden

        Pao. God bless you for your honesty. I will pray for you. The best thing any of us can do is to devour the Word of God. It is so healing and gives us such confidence in God’s care for us. I have started reading the Bible from beginning to end with no commentaries and just letting the Holy Spirit teach me. It has so changed my life.

        “Taste and see that The Lord is good”. Psalm 34:8

        • Thank you @Eva H. and @tmselden. By the way, I was the one who submitted this DQ. :)

          • Cassie

            Oh, I was wondering if you had, since you’d been replying to quite a few of the answers… :) Great question!

      • Eva H.

        I’m praying, Pao :)

    • You’re right – wherever we go we always find people trying to be better than others or wanting to be like others so much they forget about the bad things in their lives. The best person to compare ourselves to is ALWAYS Jesus πŸ˜‰

  • I don’t think comparison is good (for the most part). We can learn from others, look to them as our role model, etc… but I think that comparison (especially worldly comparison) can produce jealousy (James 3:16), not being content (Phillipians 4:11) and even covetousness (Exodus 20:17)! For example (bad comparison): Looking at how many friends people have, skills/talents/gifts they have that you don’t, looking at their “perfect” side and your “bad side”, etc. This can be dangerous because you can put yourself down, downplay the gifts God has given you, or even produce bad fruit (as cited above with Scripture). When you put yourself down you are putting God down because we are made in His image and our whole purpose is to bring glory and honor to Him! He made you just the way He made you for a purpose and although the world may have different standards on what makes a person “cool”, or how to dress, act, etc. just know that God is the only one you need to please (1 Samuel 16:7)! And now for an example of good comparison: looking at the good fruit others produce and trying to produce it in your own life, being attentive and observant, trying to look at small hard things that you see others do and appreciating them for it, taking inspiration from someone’s story, looking toward a person as a role model, etc. I have two real life examples for this: 1. The pastor of our church truly is living a life of faith, he and his wife moved from one place to where we now live because they felt the Lord calling them there. They left their dream house and good jobs and now are fixing up a home and trying to find jobs. I look at their lives and hope that I can live a life of faith like them. That is good comparison. 2. When my mom and I were at a restaurant once there was a big group of teenage boys at a table near us. They were laughing, talking and having a good time. When they got up to leave 11 of 12 boys just walked outside still laughing and jesting. 1 of 12 boys stayed behind and quickly straightened chairs, cleared the plates, etc. My mom and I observed his actions and had a conversation about being considerate. So I think wanting to produce good fruit and observing others good fruit is healthy comparison because it strengthens our relationship with Christ. Lastly (but not leastly), our main goal should be to learn from Christ (Matthew 11:29) and strive to be more like Him!

    Sorry that was so long!

    Blessings!
    -Priscilla

    • Jolie Simmonds

      No problema about the length. Great comment. I totally agree with you!

  • Michaela T

    You’d think that pride and low self esteem were opposites, but it’s fascinating how comparing ourselves to others can lead to both. You can either look at someone else’s weaknesses and think that you’re better than them or you can see their strengths and think that you’re worse than them. I guess the key is to remember that we’re not saved by our own works but by the Work of Jesus Who loves us all equally. When we sin, whether it is a “little white lie” or murder, we are automatically a sinner. We are all sinners and our sin is no different than so-and-so’s. In other words their is no purpose in comparing ourselves to others unless they are inspiring us.

    • Jolie Simmonds

      I like the points that you’re making and in many was I suppose that you are right. But don’t you think that by humbly comparing ourselves to others
      in an effort to learn from their mistakes and accomplishments can be quite positive and NOT promote both pride and low self esteem?

      • Michaela T

        I sort of take back what I was saying about there being absolutely NO purpose in comparing ourselves to others. I never really thought of it in the sense that you can learn from other people’s mistakes and accomplishments. In that case, I believe that comparing yourselves to others can be a good thing. In my comment I said that it CAN turn into pride and low self esteem, but only if you let it. Thank you for your insight!

        • Jolie Simmonds

          No problem :) , and I definitely do agree with you that it has potential to turn into a negative, so I guess we were both sort of right just in different ways. Thanks for getting back to me on that!

  • Look up “Just Be You and Live Original” on YouTube Sadie Robertson just posted an awesome video that sums up what we have been talking about!

  • Jonathan

    Never compare yourself to others only compare yourself with one other person you compare with who you were yesterday with who you are today

  • Elizabeth Marie

    Well, as Christians, we should be CHRISTLIKE! Is that comparing?

    I personally find myself comparing my “walk with CHRIST” with those from the Bible or other Faith Chronicles like Foxe’s Book of Martyrs. Don’t get me wrong… it’s not like a contest to see “who will be the greatest in GOD’s kingdom” or anything like that… but rather I find myself praying for more faith, wisdom, strength and other character qualities displayed by Christ and His followers! It’s more of a self-evaluation test for me…

    • Jolie Simmonds

      I’ve never read those books, but I think I agree with what you’re saying. Choosing strong steadfast Christians as rolemodles has helped me to improve myself. I look at the things that I admire about them and try to follow their example; their kind of like teachers in my mind. Of course no one is perfect, but I’m sure everyone has met one of those Christians who seem to just glow with GOD’s love, those kind of Christians who you can’t help admiring and wanting to be like. So I’d say yes compare your self to them but as you said not in a contest-like way but as a self-evaluation and self-modification test.

      • Jolie Simmonds

        Ex:In the Bible Paul was a rolemodel to the early churches.

    • Emma

      I’ve read the Foxe’s Book of Martyrs! It was really sad:( But I still liked the book:)

  • Benji H.

    Well its wrong but we all do it! Either that persons friends or the clothes they wear. We are sinners and we are jealous. You just have to think. What do I have that they don’t? How does that make me better? And does God compare myself with them? Just think on those and you wont even care about what others have.

  • Nate Salvati

    I think that there is only one place that you can compare yourself to other people. That is when you compare yourself to sinners, and even then you must be careful to do it in a way that is humble, saying that you were once a sinner and then you compare yourself to other sinners.

  • Patrick Williamson

    I compare my self to t my youth paster or other older christians and I see ho they are walking with God or how they act so I can be a better christian and make good habits and that would be ok unless you are like being like the pharisees and worrying to much about rules and thinking oh no I didn’t do this or that and then thats when you put rules and trying to be perfect before God because no one is perfect.

  • Marissa Brown

    In my Tae Kwon Do classes I like to compare my actions and level of focus and dedication to someone of a higher level to me. Like, I’m a red belt now which is #9 out of 11 belts (black being best and #11) so I compare my skill and effort level to a black belt or second degree black belt. The harder I work the better I become even though I’m below that level visually. I do the same thing with my age. When I was 12 I acted like I was 14. I’ve always been told I was mature for my age and it’s a blessing and a curse but I think it’s more beneficial when you’re goals are that of the Rebelution. A certain degree of comparison is good for you. If you compare you to yourself where you were a few years ago that’s motivating (or hopefully is) and maybe if that doesn’t motivate you then comparing yourself to who you want to be a few years from now will motivate you. Comparison can be bad but it can also be good. It’s like sugar on a diet, a little bit is fine.

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