Joshua Harris On The Modesty Survey
How should a godly young person respond to The Modesty Survey? That’s a huge question — one that Alex and I have been striving to answer for the past three to four months. Leave it to our older brother, Joshua, best-selling author of I Kissed Dating Goodbye and Boy Meets Girl, to succinctly and powerfully answer that question — turning our eyes away from ourselves and to Christ.
Joshua Harris’s Take On The Modesty Survey
My brothers, Alex and Brett have accomplished something very unique with The Modesty Survey. In an appropriate and tactful way they’ve facilitated a conversation between men and women on a most delicate issue: modesty in dress. To be honest, I wasn’t sure what to think of it when I first saw it. Some of the statements on the survey struck me as really funny, even odd. I kept waiting for a statement like, “It’s a stumbling block for a girl to be pretty” — 95% of men agree!
But this is where it’s really important to understand the concept. Alex and Brett are not editing the real questions of girls or the real opinions of guys — they’re just giving them to you straight without commentary. So you may or may not be able to relate to the statements made or the majority opinions in response to certain statements. That’s okay. Alex and Brett aren’t telling you what to think. But they are asking you to think for yourself and prayerfully consider before God how your life and actions effect other people around you. And that’s what a thoughtful perusal of The Modesty Survey should lead you to do — evaluate your own heart and life.
I wish we didn’t need this survey. I wish that fathers and brothers in local churches could serve their daughters and sisters and that each home could provide loving direction on its own. But obviously that’s not possible for everyone. And for those who lack that kind of godly counsel and input this Survey is a useful tool.
As you review it, don’t forget to pray for your fellow brothers and sisters in Christ. Ask that God would help others around the world to honor Him and love each other sincerely. And remember that ultimately the most important survey is the Survey of One — what God thinks of your heart, motivations and actions. I pray that this survey will remind you that regardless of what others think, pleasing Him in all you do is your highest priority.
Read: From Alex and Brett / From Fred Stoeker / From Joshua Harris